Hey, I know you're disappointed and upset, and I'm sorry :( (not as an official mouthpiece for the band or anything, just another fan)
Sadly, this is part of the tradeoff for being able to see a band further from their home. They'll have come a long way to do a lot of shows in quick succession and that's going to take a toll on them. Coming out for every group of girls who knocked would mean a lot of girls and less time to unwind and decompress. Not that they don't love their fans, but would you be in the mood to stick around after work and chat with customers all night when you could be having a beer and calling home? I don't think anybody intentionally lied to you, either... it's possible that he just didn't know what everyone's plans were right then.
Really, I do sympathize (I am sad myself that they will be an hour south of me tomorrow night and I have no ticket or gas money), but it's really good for the band's health just to hang out by themselves sometimes. It's good for anyone.
The monument was in the shape of a seahorse and the plaque read we got hot and died. (RB)