Thank you Audrey, for my first smile of the day!

Being here at Tee's is always a nice break. Right now we have craziness with 2 dogs, 2 cats and 4 kittens here (Tee's fostering again, but not for the Humane Society). I just spent some time wrangling the kittens, who keep escaping from where they're being kept. Sneaky little devils! The only thing I really miss when I'm here is my own cats. As I was falling asleep, I expected to feel Finn jump onto the bed, and Kirby climb his way up.

So today's my meeting with FACS. I know I have nothing to worry about, but still...

I will post later and let you all know how it went. I'm sure Chelsea will chat away and show the woman the kittens. If it were a man visiting, they'd probably think she was beaten every day by how she'd be acting!

Bye for now guys. Have a great day!

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

Hey Trace,

I hope the meeting goes well for you and Chelsea.

I just have to say that with how Chelsea acts around men that this is a definite sign that something has happened, and I am not referring to it just being with that teacher she had.  Reminds me of a certain woman I know that still has trust issues where men are concerned, and still tends to get skittish around them in new situations.  I see that woman everytiime I look in the mirror.

I am hoping that you can get out of there, ASAP.  And as much as the kids seem to think that being around their father is a good idea, it's out of the reasoning that he is their father...and you're supposed to love both your parents no matter what they do, right?  Jim is a jerk, and will continue to be a jerk, and I'm sure that underneath it all both Adrian and Chelsea can see that, but because he is their father they think they have to maintain some sort of loyalty.

Anyhow, like I said, I hope the meeting is a good one and that the right things happen as a result.  But not matter what, don't fall into the trap of thinking that staying for the children is the best thing.  It isn't, and as hard as it is right now to see it, getting out is the best thing, in my opinion.  The kids will come around because neither of them are stupid.  A little thick-headed at times, but then aren't we all?

Hugs,

Bonnie

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Don't feed the idiots or they'll continue being idiots...

The  woman is here right now. She's talked with me and now she's talking to Chels. Unfortunately, she's also going to have to talk to Jim. I am not happy about that. He has a way of convincing people of anything. But one thing is definite...now that the ball is rolling, I HAVE to leave. It would look irresponsible if I didn't. And quite frankly, it IS irresponsible if I don't. I just have to find a place that's in my price range and in the right area. I've found a few apts in my price range, but I'm not moving to another city. It's all so overwhelming, but I'm going to have to jump in with both feet and get on with it. I've sat on this for too many years now as it is.

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

You go, girl!  I'm afraid I agree with Bonnie - Jim's threats at the very least have probably scared the blue blazes out of Chelsea.  You have your own checking account, right?  If not, do set one up right away, and link a PayPal account to it.  They can come in really handy.

Love, Columbine (who has never made the break myself, but has been with the Resistance for a while as a sort of eyewitness historian) 

 

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I agree 100% with Columbine and Bonnie having your own bank account is essential to getting away If you have the child tax credit going into a joint accout get it changed while at the bank. You need to find a place to have peace of mind for you and Chelsey. Have no fear, this is your walk on the moon!

 

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~The mind is like a parachute, It always works best when it's open~Edna Buchanan~

~Northern Spy~The Apple of my Pie~

~Audrey~

Omg, Audrey...my walk on the moon...how perfect. That's what I'm going to think of it as. Puts a whole different spin on it.

I have my own bank account. That has been one of the problems in our marriage...that we have never had 'our' money. It's always his or mine.

 I really don't want to move. Chelsea has been with her friend Lauren for a full 24 hours and it makes me wonder what she'll do for friends if we move. And if we move too far, she'll rarely see Lauren. But if I have to, I will. I'm not going to let him force me to stay here with him. I'm worried about Christmas presents, spending time with both kids, wondering how it's going to work. But worry is like a rocking chair...keeps you busy but gets you nowhere.

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

Trace,

Don't worry about CHristmas. The best CHristmas I can remember was when we hardly had any presents (none that I had asked for) and we spent the weeks before the big day making Christmas cookies and homemade decorations for the tree which we picked up on CHristmas Eve for  50 cents. What a wonderful lesson it was for me. I accompanied my dad to the relatives' homes to give them the cookies. It was truly better to give than receive that year. I think I was 10 or 11 then.

Anne

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And when the winds of change begin to blow,
I'll whisper, "You're my lighthouse" in case you didn't know.

Sons of Maxwell

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Thanks Anne. I know Chelsea is like that...every year she says that 'Christmas is about spending time with your family'. Now Adrian on the other hand...! Right now he's pissed that we only have plain chips and that I won't give him money to go to the corner store to get something else!

It's a gorgeous day out. Chelsea's been outside all day with two of her friends, I'm cleaning and blasting music, having a 'near' beer and just feeling good. Nothing like a beautiful sunshiny day (and a nice clean house!) to lift your spirits.

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

And to add to the beautiful day, while rummaging thru my desk drawer a few mins ago, I found a ten dollar bill!

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

I think I'm killing this thread with my recent posts!

Come on...anyone have news?

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

I'm at the end of my rope with my kid, but I'd hardly call that news.

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"I see you in the front row, bouncing up and down, you're ripped and ready for a night downtown." ~ Margarita
What's wrong with a little flirtation?

Monster Tee

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

Me again...

We went to the in laws for dinner. Jim was drinking and got into a confrontation with Adrian. A very loud confrontation, with taunts of 'come on, let's go' as in fighting. My MIL was not impressed. I took that opportunity to tell her what's been going on, but of course, I couldn't go into complete details with Jim there. Tee was concerned about him driving us home when he'd been drinking and she was just around the corner at a client's house, so she picked us up. So Jim is still there, no doubt giving them his own spin on the situation. I asked his mom to please make him see that him leaving is for the best. I think by seeing Jim trying to 'take on' Adrian, she got a feel for what he's like. I did tell her that I would have left long ago if not for his threats of violence towards me and the kids and that FACS is now involved and there's no turning back. I don't know how it's going to turn out. He'll either come home pissed off, humbled, or cocky that he pulled the wool over his parent's eyes and made them think it's all me. I guess I'll find out soon...

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Some people shine like a star in the first moment. Others keep their light hidden until they are ready to show us.

Oh, Trace! I hope things work out for you. I am worried for you. Take care and stay safe.

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"Take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." E. Wiesel
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Imprudens est draconem vivum de consiliis tuis omittere.
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I'm not convinced that humility is a part of his repertoire.  If he gets called on the carpet, he'll probably just lie and tell you his folks are siding with him.  That's my guess.

Love, Columbine 

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